So much has happened in my heart over the last week; it’s truly amazing what can happen when you choose to shift your focus. I’ve spent this week intentionally illuminating all of my husband’s strengths, and as a result, his faults have diminished in my eyes. He is still human, and of course, makes mistakes just like me. But in choosing to celebrate all of the good he brings to my life, my store of grace towards him has overflowed.
I haven’t really noticed all of the dirty socks I’ve picked up off of the floor or found myself irked at how long he sits on the couch after he’s gotten home from work and there are things to be done. Those kinds of thoughts are just selfishness brooding in my heart. Instead, this week I’ve found myself more inclined to let him rest and feel thankful he has a wonderful job to come home from and that I actually get to see him every day; I’ve found myself more than happy to pick up the socks or wash the clothes to help him out. I’ve found myself more joyful each day that I get to serve and love a strong, kind, loving man and go on this adventure called life with him.
So often the grind of life can edge it’s way in to marriage and erode your joy. But the good news is you can cultivate the discipline of serving your spouse and choosing to magnify their strengths and extend grace over their faults. You can forgive more quickly, say I love you more often, speak words of encouragement instead of passive aggression and be the first one to say I’m sorry, whether you’re wrong or not.
Struggles and difficult seasons are only opportunities for you to grow stronger in each other and rely more on the strength and peace that comes from God. Your bad days now become what you look back on to sustain you in tough times later. Remember all you’ve weathered together already and look forward to the blessings to come.
“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope.”
Romans 5:3-4 ESV
When you find yourself focusing too much on fault or mistake, I challenge you to physically write a list and meditate on their virtues instead. Shift your focus and then look at them again; you might not believe your eyes.
With Strong Brewed Love,
Photo Credit to the amazing Audrey Wolf Photography.